
This is the 14th instalment of Diaspora Diaries, a regular series in Nepali Times with stories of Nepalis living and working abroad.
I went to Qatar in 2003 with a singular goal -- to earn enough so I could be well established when I returned to Nepal.
For someone from my background, that was an ambitious goal, since I had grown up with nothing. I lost my mother when I was three years old. Three of my siblings were scattered across families after my father remarried.
My maternal grandmother who lived in Okhaldhunga took me in, and I was told that she picked me because my face closely resembled my mother's. Perhaps it gave her some semblance of having her daughter close by.
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Later, I was sent to stay with my uncle in Kathmandu. Their son was very young, and I could take care of him while also attending school there. You could call it a win-win situation.
Or at least that was how all the adults justified this move to themselves. Deep inside, though, a part of me still hurts because I know that I never had anyone to really call my own who was looking out for me selflessly.

After finishing my SLC, I took diploma training in automobile maintenance. With this course, my ultimate goal was to get a job abroad. And before long in 2003, at age 19, I found myself on a plane to Qatar for my first real job. I would spend the next nine years there.
I worked at a store selling automobile parts, and was lucky because it was an indoor job, with AC. Even when I spent a few minutes outside, whether it was to install a car part, or to walk the short distance from where the company bus dropped us off to my room, I would be drenched in sweat.
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I was grateful I did not have to work outdoors in that desert heat. I had heard of other workers in labour intensive jobs outside, who toiled in the scorching heat, destroyed their health and used up all their savings after returning just to pay medical bills.
My singular focus was to earn. So I worked hard, did not take more than one day off a month. I took all the overtime I could, even in the evenings or weekends. Earning more was like being addicted to drugs. I pushed myself to work harder so I could meet my savings target.
When I first went to Qatar, my basic salary was 700 riyal and by the time I left, it was 2,500 riyal. I was happy. Back then I used to feel lucky for being paid for overtime, but I had not realised that I was being ripped off. Overtime hours, as per the law, require you to be paid higher than your normal wages, which I was not. No one told me about this rule.
There were 12 people in my room when I first started out, all sleeping on triple decker beds. I am glad I did not have the upper bunk because my roommate used to complain how it always felt like there was an earthquake every time someone below him moved even slightly.

